Saturday, October 28, 2017

Somebody was the first who said to you, you are responsible.

At first you probably did not understand what such a word meant. I am responsible. What was actually meant by the speaker was: you had better do what I expect of you or you will be sorry. So, the speaker was sure he knew what you are supposed to do and what you are not supposed to do...as if he knew which he does not and neither do you.

Yet, the statement did not go away but is said to us everyday
many times in many ways.

So, I want to suggest to you what it can mean to us. First and foremost, it can mean: if I am responsible I am first responsible to live in reality and not to pretend I am anything I am not truly. With all my heart I want you to know you are not responsible to perform for others like a robot they own. You are free.

Yesterday, a friend told me she was accused of making a mistake at work. She ships things around the world and she shipped something to a wrong address. She was devastated with shame and fearful of losing her position. I listened. Then I remembered we are responsible to live in truth. Truth is, nobody knows whether my friend's error was a bad thing or a good thing and probably never will know. If the error caused the client to actually gain favor from a customer or saved another person's life or kept the package from arriving in time to ruin the client's business or introduced two people who afterward discovered a cure for cancer...can that be said to be bad? You write the story. Go on. Write a story in which by delaying or preventing a shipment in error a great good was done. Show yourself what you do not know, in other words, reality.


Here is my point: he who chooses deliberately to live a life of pretend because he feels pressured to do it by a society which threatens him will ultimately reap the results everyone should expect from deciding to live a life of pretend. That is the real problem we have as humans, not the fact we sometimes mail things to the wrong address. Another way to see it is that nobody was born to please anybody else. By accepting jobs we pretend we can do it and like it and prosper by it. That is stupid. Ain't gonna happen. Ask Abraham.